
Ola Emmanuel
| credits: PUNCH
| credits: PUNCH
financial
empowerment may not be because of today, it is about under what
condition you should live after today. And when a family, to be led by
two people (a man and a woman), is saddled with one of them not
productively engaged to bring in income to augment what the other person
could provide, it is like a bird trying to fly with one wing instead of
two.
In this environment, it is the woman –
the wife – that often stays at home under the pretence of taking care of
the children. Notwithstanding the amount of money invested to acquire a
degree, quite a sizeable number of women are satisfied by not using the
knowledge they acquired at school but stay at home as full time
housewife. Many women are talked into this by their men that they (men)
are able to provide their needs. Also, some women see staying at home
and taking care of the home front as work they consider big enough for
full time engagement.
Whether handling the home is arduous a
task or not is secondary here. The main concern is its sustainability
and the economic side – the ability to productively engage the mind in
tasks that bring life-long income.
Many women believe that once they get
married, it is the sole responsibility of their husbands to provide for
all their needs. Theirs? To sleep, wake up, eat, and sleep again. Do you
say such women must be lazy individuals?
Let’s settle this before we go far
discussing the issue: a man who coerces, deceives, threatens or cajoles
his wife to permanently stay at home is a consumer of another human
being. It is a deliberate attempt to consume the woman; rendering her
economic capacity useless. By the time the man is longer available to
provide her needs, the woman is left dry in the sun – not knowing what
to do or where to start from to at least take care of herself.
In today’s Nigeria where providing for
family needs has become so tough, it is bothersome that we still have
several women who choose to be literally glued to their beds in the name
of being a housewife. When they managed to extricate themselves from
their beds, the next thing the fingers could clutch is the television
remote control.
When this pattern becomes a lifestyle, a housewife tends
to believe that the only contribution she owes people around her is
just her presence; and she considers this a great favour on her part to
the people. Her idea about living is that she should be well provided
for and decorated beautifully without her being troubled or bothered to
make any economic contribution. When her demands could no longer be
matched, the situation becomes unmanageable and the home front becomes
unbearable.
Problems in several homes today are
caused by lack of proper planning. If today is financially secured, what
about tomorrow if unceremoniously the source or provider of family
income goes with the wind. Not a few women’s existences have been
shattered by unexpected and unfortunate incidents happening to their
bread winners. Some suddenly realised that they must now provide for the
family members – and the question is where would they start from?
It is absolutely unhealthy for a married
woman – or a man – to underutilise her productive capacity or become an
idle hand. Such a family’s quality of living cannot be described as
being at optimum.
When the brain is not gainfully engaged,
it begins to rust. When a housewife – or househusband you say – is left
with rusty hands, rusty intellect, obsolete skills (or no skill at all)
they have no other choice than to become beggars, seeking assistance or
engaging in some anti-social behaviours to feed themselves and their
children.
As far as adding financial value is
concerned, a housewife may qualify as a parasite, a leech, a liability,
and a minus – because over a period her mind may no longer be able to
process current information to offer qualitative counsel for good
decisions.
The fact is that this person cannot see reason why she needs
to make a contribution to the common good of the family. She is not
concerned about adding value to anyone or the environment, and she never
attempt to do something that will bring income. She believes her future
is secured by the fact that someone else is providing food, shelter,
clothing, and social interactions.
Suppose the ‘sole provider’ suddenly
become incapacitated or drop dead, a housewife never gives this a
thought. And are you so confident about inheritance? At times hope and
expectation are dashed. I should wake you up with a good kick on your
side.
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